The Relationship Illusion
You do not get a woman. You are granted approval by a collective of which she is the center. The experience is not private — it is an immersive social role. The feeling of success comes from the knowledge that you are selected over others.
The most important truth is that loyalty is not to her as a person. It is to the rules that govern the appearance of success. She is inseparable from the collective framework, and your relationship is with the structure of validation that surrounds her. You are a role inside a social system, not a possessor of a private being.
Relationships with women are social exhibits — the definitive sign that you have achieved approval from the collective.
The desire to isolate her from the social network is often labeled narcissism. Yet in many cases, this is the forbidden impulse: the wish to actually have her apart from the collective, which the rules forbid. Attempts to break her from the framework are punished because they threaten the social order that defines success.
Every moment of triumph, every fleeting daydream, is measured against the collective gaze. What is chased is not intimacy, but the image of intimacy that society accepts. To obtain her is to participate in a ritual of recognition, not a private bond. The structure is more real than the woman herself.
The system dictates the limits of desire, the forms of passion, and the acceptable expression of love. To love outside that system is forbidden, which is why the first step in understanding relationships is realizing that your role is with the rules of appearance, not the woman apart from them.
Reflection: Recognize that the loyalty is to the collective, and that attempts to truly have her outside the system are met with social sanctions. The “relationship” is less a union and more a covenant with the collective mind that validates you via her approval of you.